uhh. what’s a death doula?

It’s like a birth doula, but I put you back where you came from. Just kidding.

The word doula means “woman who serves” or “servant woman.” The word is often associated with being a companion and advocate for someone who is giving birth, however doula support can be incredibly helpful during different life events.

A death doula provides information and support during the end-of-life and post-death process. Each Death Doula (also known as a death midwife, end-of-life coach/caregiver) will have different approaches, but a doula is ultimately there to empower you to make the choices that are right for you. We are here to serve you, through life and death.

Note: Current Canadian law restricts the use of “Death Midwife” as a job title.

who needs one?

Well, depends who you ask. I think everyone needs a doula. But many have gone without one. I think part of the reason why there is a surge in death doulas is due to the realization of how beneficial they can be for ALL of us. Increasing literacy around death & grief, empowering the dying to find peace and meaning, and helping all humans have the life and death they want can be hugely beneficial to all of humanity.

When?

Anytime. You don’t need to wait for a diagnosis to contact a doula. Doulas can support people of any age or health status. Hit us up to ensure your affairs are in order; to help make your wishes clear to your family and friends. We can help you gain the confidence to communicate your wishes and throw a total banger of a funeral. You can call us when someone you love is approaching death, or you yourself have discovered your time is shorter than you thought. We will sit with you in love and non-judgment. We will bring our resources and lived experience to you when you need input. We can help you navigate the difficult feelings surrounding grief and death, and we can help you with the practical tasks that are overwhelming.

There’s a reason why I call myself a Friend at the End. I am here to be your incredibly useful, professional friend.